Week 5 · Chapter Four
Have You Any Right to Be Angry?
This weekWrite two sentences: what happened, with names, and what it cost you.
The city had done everything a city could do.
The king had come down off his throne, taken off his robe, and sat in ashes. The people had fasted, the greatest to the least. The decree had put sackcloth on the cattle. And the last line of the chapter is the best news in the whole book: He relented from the disaster He had threatened to bring upon them.
The very next line is about the man who had carried the warning in.
Jonah, however, was greatly displeased, and he became angry.
The chapter break between those two sentences was added centuries later. In the scroll they sit side by side. The city's best day and the prophet's worst are one breath apart.
He wasn't confused about why he was angry. He prayed, and he said it.
O LORD, is this not what I said while I was still in my own country? He had seen this coming from the start. It was the reason he'd headed for Tarshish instead of Nineveh the first time he was sent. I knew that You are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger, abounding in loving devotion.
He had been right about God the whole time. Being right hadn't helped him at all.
Then he asked to die. Please take my life from me, for it is better for me to die than to live.
That's a lot of anger for good news. It makes sense only if the news was good for somebody else. Nineveh was the great city of an empire his own people had every reason to fear, and the warning he'd carried in had turned out to be its rescue. He did the job he was given. The job ended in a way he could not stand.
God didn't argue with him, and didn't tell him to calm down. He asked one thing.
Have you any right to be angry?
Look at what the question leaves alone. It doesn't ask whether he's angry. That part is settled; everybody in the story can see it. It doesn't tell him his reasons were wrong. It asks about the right. Whether the anger was his to keep.
Jonah didn't answer. He got up, walked out of the city, and sat down on the east side of it, where he made himself a shelter and sat in its shade to see what would happen to the city.
It's worth noticing where he went. Not home, and not far. He built a place to wait within sight of the thing that made him angry, and sat in it. He had done his work and been proven right about God, and now there was nothing left for him to do in that city but watch. Plenty of people end a long stretch of work on a hill like that, close enough to see, with nothing in their hands.
What happened next is the part most people skim. The LORD God appointed a vine. It grew up over his head, and Jonah was greatly pleased with the plant. At dawn, God appointed a worm, and the vine withered. Then God appointed a scorching east wind, and the sun beat on his head until he grew faint.
Appointed, three times. It's the same word the book used for the fish. A city of more than a hundred and twenty thousand people had just turned around, and the next thing the text records God doing is arranging shade and a worm and a hot wind for one angry man sitting on a hill. The anger didn't get Jonah thrown out. It got him attention.
Then the question came again, narrower. Have you any right to be angry about the plant?
This time he answered. I do, he replied. I am angry enough to die!
And God answered with one more question, and the book ends on it. So should I not care about the great city of Nineveh, which has more than 120,000 people who cannot tell their right hand from their left, and many cattle as well?
That's the last line. No reply from Jonah. No word on whether he went home or stayed on the hill. The book stops with the question in the air and the prophet still sitting in the heat.
There's another man in Scripture who had every right, and he got asked a version of the same question by his own fear.
Joseph's brothers had sold him. Years after they'd been reunited, their father died, and the old dread came back. What if Joseph bears a grudge? they said. Then he will surely repay us for all the evil that we did to him. They sent word asking forgiveness. Then they came and bowed. We are your slaves!
When their message came to him, Joseph wept.
Those brothers had lived with that fear for years. They'd eaten at his table and raised their children on his grain, and the whole time they'd been waiting for the bill. Whatever Joseph had been carrying, they'd been carrying something too. Anger held long enough makes two prisons, and the other people in the story usually live in the second one.
What Joseph said next does two things, and the order matters. First he asked a question of his own. Am I in the place of God?
That's Jonah's question, answered from the other side. Joseph had the power and the history and every right anyone could list. He looked at the chair where the sentence gets passed and said it wasn't his.
Then, in the same breath, he named it. As for you, what you intended against me for evil. No softening. They meant it, and it was evil, and he said so to their faces. Giving up the chair didn't mean pretending nothing had happened in front of it. And then he said, I will provide for you and your little ones, and the text says he reassured his brothers and spoke kindly to them.
Say plainly what was done. Neither man is asked to call it something smaller. Then there's the question of the chair, and it's allowed to take a long time. The book of Jonah gives it the rest of his life and never records the answer. God kept asking. He never once stopped talking to the man who wouldn't answer.
Where this meets your week
The decision made in a room you weren't in. A board voted. The buyer's lawyers rewrote the terms. A new leader sent the memo. A family decided the business would go another way. Jonah's anger was about a decision made over his head, and the first thing he did with it was say it out loud, without dressing it up as principle. If the anger has been running underneath for months, say it plainly once. Pick one person who can hear it without fixing it or joining in: an old friend, a sibling, a pastor, a counselor. Tell them up front what you're asking for. Something like: "I need to say the angry version of this once, out loud, and I don't need advice. Can you just listen for ten minutes?" Then say the real version, not the fair-minded one. If there's no one, say it to God in the car with the radio off. Jonah's prayer is in the book, and it isn't polite.
The shade. When a role ends, small comforts start carrying more weight than they were built for. The morning coffee with the old crew. The standing tee time. The table at the diner. Jonah was greatly pleased with a vine, and when it died he wanted to die with it. If something small sets off something large, it may be standing in for the big loss. Keep a card in a wallet or a note on a phone for one month. Each time something small lands too hard, a parking space, a slow line, a call that didn't get returned, write the date and finish one sentence: "This is really about ___." By the end of the month the list usually points at one thing. That's the vine, and it helps to know which one it is.
The people who couldn't tell left from right. Most of the people at the old place don't know the story. The new hires, the customers, the people in the pews, the grandkids of the founders. God's last question counted them, and the cattle too. If there's a funeral, a reunion or a holiday party coming that will put you back among them, decide two things before you walk in. One short, true answer for when someone asks how it's going: "I'm finding my way. It's been a big change." And one question to ask the newer people about themselves. Then leave the old story in the car for that one evening. Nothing is being pretended away. They just don't have to carry it.
When one of them comes asking. Somebody from the old place calls. They need a reference, a vendor's number, the history on an account, the reason a thing was done the way it was. Joseph's brothers came frightened and asking, and he answered the need in front of him without pretending the past away. You can give someone what they came for without reopening the case. Decide ahead how the call goes: give the information, wish them well, stop. "Here's the number you need. I hope it goes well." If the talk drifts toward the old business, it's fair to say, "I'd rather not go back over that, but I'm glad to help with this." Then hang up. Joseph fed his brothers' children. Most of these calls ask far less.
With someone you trust. The person closest to you may have heard the story so many times they've stopped really listening, or may be angrier about it than you are. Jonah's question can be asked together. Sit down with a spouse, an old friend or two, or a small group that already meets. Each person names one ending that still stings, in two sentences, and nobody argues anyone's case. Then one person reads the question aloud, Have you any right to be angry?, and everyone sits with it for a minute without answering. Twenty minutes, then stop and get something to eat. The point is to find out that the question can sit in a room without anybody losing.
Two sentences, on paper.
Pick a time when nobody will interrupt, early morning or late evening, at a table rather than on a phone. Give it twenty minutes, not an afternoon. Use paper that can go in a drawer afterward.
The first sentence says what happened, plainly, with names, the way Joseph said it: what you intended against me for evil. No softening, and no speech. If it runs past two lines, cut it back. Something the length of this: "In March the board voted me out without a conversation, and Lee made the motion."
The second says what it cost you. Not what it proved about them. What it took. "It cost me the five years I'd planned, and my trust that I read people well."
Then write the question underneath and leave it unanswered. Jonah didn't answer it, and nobody took the book away from him.
Some nights the anger comes up hot, or the second sentence won't come. When that happens, stop. Fold the paper and put it away. That isn't failure. It means the thing is real. Try again in a week. Some people need several tries before the cost gets written down, and the first sentence is worth having on its own.
The vine was gone. The city was standing. And the last thing anyone says in the book is God, still asking. Should I not care about the great city of Nineveh?
Sources
- Jonah 3:10. “He relented from the disaster He had threatened...”
- Jonah 4:4. “Have you any right to be angry?”
- Genesis 50:15. “Then he will surely repay us for all...”
Scripture quotations are from the Berean Standard Bible, which is in the public domain.